What is the ruling on having phone sex or via chatting on social media?

Answer

Praise Be to Allah and Peace Be Upon His Messenger.

Some men and women exceed the limits by doing inappropriate actions and saying immodest words during a phone call and chatting. They do impudent and shameless actions. This is certainly haram. A man and a woman who do this are equal in front of Allah. Both are considered to be sinful as they disobey Allah. Whoever does this must keep in their minds that Allah will cover them once, twice, or three times, but if they insist on doing the same deeds, Allah will disclose them. There will be a day when their actions become exposed to others. If you talk about your friend who stopped doing such an action, you should tell her that what she used to do is an introduction to real adultery. If she insists, she will certainly commit the adultery. If she quits, she must keep asking Allah to forgive her and waive her sin. She also must be far from the same circumstances and the surrounding which led her to do that. She does not have to expose herself to others. Tell her to repent secretly, and let her repentance be sincere.